Location sharing on your smartphone is an easy way to track your bestie who’s out on a random Tinder date, or to keep tabs on your mom at all times of the day literally just because. It’s like opt-in radar for your closest friends and fam.
But through a quick poll, I found out that you all seem to have some thoughts about whether or not it’s okay to follow your S.O. via Location Sharing. In a time when you can literally swipe your way toward a date or microcheat with someone via text, tracking down your other half in mere seconds is a controversial AF topic.
Here’s what 23 women had to say about why they’re totally for or against sharing their location with bae.
Pro Location Sharing
“My partner and I are considering sharing locations with each other because she wants to know that I’m okay. I think it’s good as long as you can set boundaries and have honest conversations about it.” —Autumn, 27
“I share it with my boyfriend because we were long distance for a while. We would use it when the other was traveling to make sure we made it home safe, and then never stopped sharing. I hardly ever look at it, but when I do, he’s always exactly where he said he would be!” —Emily, 24
“My husband and I have each other on ‘Find My Friends’ and we do it for a safety reason. Like, if one of us isn’t home by the time we said we would be, or if I want to see how close he is from home before I start making dinner. No concerns for jealousy or anything from either of us.” —Abby, 32
“I follow my girlfriend to keep tabs on her commute home and to make sure she gets back safely. We live together, so we usually know what we’re both doing anyway. It’s definitely a safety check for us.” —Hannah, 25
“My fiancé and I both share our locations for emergency purposes, but we do not check each other’s location regularly. We communicate often enough for us to know where we are, so what’s the point? If you cannot take your significant other’s word, then you should address the underlying issue: trust.” —Ashley, 30
“My current partner is familiar with my past relationships that dealt with cheating. He sent me his location as his way of showing his trustworthiness, knowing I have some trust issues. This one gesture increased my trust in him significantly, and I rarely look at his location—only if I know he’s driving and want to know how bad traffic is for an accurate ETA to home.” —Renzee, 34
“On top of using the Share My Location iPhone feature, my boyfriend and I also share Uber ride locations because it helps us keep one another safe. I think in a relationship, you are always looking for ways to be closer, to be supportive, and to be there for your partner. But in a long-distance relationship, all of this is much harder. I check his location maybe once a month, if at all, but it’s good to have it.” —Jazmin, 23
“My fiancé and I follow each other’s location and it was originally his idea. I’m super independent, so at first, I was really against it and I felt like it meant he didn’t trust me. After we talked about it, we both agreed that we live in a crazy world and sometimes things happen. It actually makes me feel better knowing he has access to my location in case anything happens. Overall, we never consistently check it, but it’s nice knowing the option is there. It’s also great for surprising each other at a special location or if I want to cook a nice dinner and time it to when he gets home!” —Lisa, 28
“My boyfriend and I have shared our locations with each other for almost four years now. We went through a rough patch (struggling with communication and trust) when we first starting dating and were in different cities, so it helped us tremendously. I highly recommend others doing the same thing, especially if you travel alone or work night hours.” —Shelby, 25
“I want my girlfriend to share her location with me because she walks home in a sketchy area at night by herself, so it’s purely a safety thing. At first, we didn’t want to, because we wanted to be able to surprise each other with things, but you can just go on airplane mode!” —Peggy, 26
“I do follow my significant other’s location and would definitely recommend it to other couples, but only for the convenience factor of not having to text the other person for an ETA.” —Keely, 23.
Against Location Sharing
“I absolutely do not do this because it would drive me legit crazy. I don’t need someone knowing where I am 24/7, and honestly, I don’t need to know someone else’s location either. I think it would definitely cause obsessive behavior—especially in fights when a person isn’t responding to texts and they’re clearly out and about doing things.” —Sarah, 26
“Sharing your location is a horrible thing that only creates problems. I think it shows a lack of trust and desire for control. I also think that once you start doing it, it’s hard to stop—and then you second guess so much.” —Jen, 24
“I’ve never done this while in a relationship. Honestly, just the thought makes me sick. It feels too controlling in my opinion—on both sides. I have only witnessed friends do this, and I see how much it hurts them and how it can always open up a can of worms and cause tension. I think if I were to do this myself, I would doubt things my S.O. tells me, or overthink where they are throughout the day—especially if we’re in a fight.” Lea, 24
“I don’t and will never ask a S.O. for their location. If they ever asked me, I would have to really think it through before agreeing. I have nothing to hide, but if you have to play games and take tests to build trust between each other, it’s not love.” —Sam, 22
“I was dating a guy who had his Snapchat location turned on. It drove me crazy because even though he had it on before we started dating, I found myself checking it on the reg. I noticed one night that he was somewhere other than his apartment (after he told me he was going to bed), so I was super sus afterward. I think I ultimately self-sabotaged that relationship, and we ended things a few months ago.” —Michelle, 24
“I turned on my ex-boyfriend’s Snapchat location without him knowing so I could secretly spy on him. That was the most insecure period in my relationship. He found out and turned it off automatically, which made me even more insecure because why would he turn it off? Was he hiding something? Definitely made me go a little psycho.” —Rachel, 24
“I do not follow my partner’s location because I would find it to be a bit overbearing and controlling. I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years, and we both have a mutual trust and security in our relationship, and don’t feel a need to check in on one another’s location. By not doing so, I feel it has helped our trust and positively impacted our relationship.” —Beverly, 30
“I don’t believe in following my S.O.’s location or them having mine because it takes away some of the mystery of our relationship. Also, I would be checking it way too often. There are times when I exaggerate my timing on things, or say I’m “going to the gym” when I’m really still at home. You don’t need to share everything with your partner!” —Lindsey, 28
“I would never even consider this. I think if anyone even considers the need for following each other’s location, there’s a bigger problem in the relationship.” —Virginia, 24
“Sorry, but no one needs to be that attached to you. It would 1,000 percent cause problems. I would constantly check it and become a psycho. Plus, I wouldn’t want my boyfriend to know where I was 24/7.” —Victoria, 24
“I would not encourage doing this if you or your partner has anxiety or insecurity issues. Over the weekend, my boyfriend personally asked me to remove him as someone who can follow me because his anxiety makes him think I’m cheating. I’m not even that bad and I’ve even started checking it to see if he was lying about where he was. The temptation to check is right there and it’s too easy. I get the reason for it in case of an emergency, but other than that, it’s not worth it.” —Sara, 23
“I do not because I don’t need to know where my fiancé is at every second of every day. Let them breathe.” —Annie, 27